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Case Scenario - How to Conquer Difficult People

Case Scenario
You are in a difficult situation. Every decision you make your mate tells you that this is not how he would have handled the situation. You are aware that your mate is belittling your every decision, making you inferior to him, while hurting your feelings.

Considering
Firstly, you are not the one with an inferiority complex problem. The mate is the one with the problem, since he is failing to see that everyone makes their own decisions differently from other people. Now, you can reflect his negative thinking into your mind and dwell on it until you are constantly hurt and inferior to him, or you can realize that he has a problem, accept that problem and find a solution to deal with it maturely. The choice is all yours. If you fall into his web, your legs will be stuck and you will become the next problem in society.

Case scenario
Your mate is always comparing you to other people and belittling your decisions. Your feelings are hurt and you start to feel inferior, however you begin thinking that he has a problem. Now you are thinking. However, as you realize he has a problem, you start thinking in the wrong direct. I can change him. This gives you a good feeling so you set out to do just that. Later down the road, you realize that you cannot change him, and that you made a serious mistake.

Considering
You realize you cannot change anyone but yourself, yet you have a difficult person that is trying to drag you down with him. What can you do to change the situation? (The fact is you can change the way people think) How? When? Why? Who? Where?

Case scenario
An intense argument starts to develop: You make a decision to buy a new couch for the home, since the old couch was falling apart. You use the money you earned from work, rather than asking your mate to help purchase the furniture.
Your mate: "I could have done better than that, and I would have never spent that kind of money."
You: You're probably right; I should have asked your help in making the decision.
Him: "That's right, you should have asked, but you are always inconsiderate of my choices, and seem to make the same mistake over and over again."
You: hurt, and feeling inferior, still you use your head. Well, the next time I will ask you what you think, (apologizes for not thinking of him) however I only paid $500 for a new couch that would have cost me $2000 if I had bought it anywhere else. You show him ads where the couch is priced at $2000 at a variety of stores. You prepared.

What can he say next when you have shown him evidence and backed the facts? He can't say anything unless he is a bona fide jerk as a whole.

Considering
If the tables turned and the argument went as followed...

Case Scenario
You make the decision to buy a new couch, paying only $500 out of your money without considering your mate.
Your mate: "I could have done better than that, and I would have never spent that kind of money on a new couch. Nor would I have bought that raggedy looking crap."
You: I could care less about what you think of me, since every time I make a decision you are always putting me down.
Your mate: "Me, always putting you down, you are the one always putting me down."
You: That's not true and you know it. You are the one always telling me you can do better.
Him: "You are a liar. I only try to make you think before you do something."
You: Huh, that is far from the truth and you know it jerk.
Him: "Oh, I am the jerk

You
You each person is putting the other on the defense line, which always proves disastrous.
You

How long are we going to continue this argument until someone breaks the ice? What you do in a situation, can make a difference, therefore always use your brain, realize the difficult person is the problem, and find a mature solution to deal with it.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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