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Disagreeing - How to Conquer Difficult People

All of us disagree with each other some time or another. This is a part of human makeup that makes us all imperfect human beings. On the other hand, not all of us disagree in the same way. We have pushy people, annoying people, people who like to argue, superior personality types and so on to deal with everyday we live. What can we do? In a world filled with different beliefs, habits, influences, behaviors, communicators and so on, what can we do?

WE can consider the SCOTOMA method in this case. This is known as the blind spot strategy, which determines how far a person will go to reach deep inside self and make adjustments to make these difficult people coming around to your way of thinking. Words make a difference as how a person will respond to us. Our words reflect our thoughts, feelings and emotions on others.

At what time you combine emotions, thoughts, words and actions on another person it comes out as a mechanism that either words to persuade, and forces the person to hear what you have to say. On the other hand, you could receive negative results if you fail to look inside you and the problem.

Thoughts reflect on others and will influence they way the person feels, thinks, behaves and so forth. Therefore, it is always important to think carefully before speaking while employing your convictions as you speak. This takes you to deliberating what the problem is and weighing each detail out carefully before you attempt to conquer a difficult person. One thing you want to remember is that pushy people, people constantly annoying others, and people who like to argue lack self-esteem, convictions, confidence, and so forth. These elements of our human nature are needed to help us persuade others effectively.

The best solution is to employ positive thinking, since it will reflect how a person will hear you as you speak. If you express anger, negative words, or hate the person will retaliate and possibly push harder. These thoughts are blind spots in our thoughts that we want to remove. The blind spots are fears buried and often come out in emotional thoughts. Here is where you need to reach down deep inside of you to see how you can solve the problem by analyzing the situation, selecting the best choices of resolve, and brainstorming as you move along.

People are imperfect and will make mistakes, yet if you use your critical thinking processes, most times you can conquer any difficult situation and/or person. The trick is disagreeing with the individual without disagreeing at all. Let's use an example to drive the points' home.

Start up those engines: Case Scenario
Using the time to shut up tactic we can consider a case scenario where a man pressures his wife to tell him a secret told to her by her friends. The woman stresses because she vowed to never speak the secret to anyone else. Thus, the man pressures her and she finally breaks down into tears and tells him the secret. The man breaks her confidence by telling his friends, who told their friends, who dragged the secret to the lowest end of the chambers, until finally everything was twisted to the point few people became angry.

If the woman would have employed the shut up tactic and not caved into her mates nagging, accordingly he would have give up and left her alone. Now people are hurt and friends are lost, since the secret evidently was one that should have been left alone. Two people went wrong in a difficult situation, whereas one person could have had control.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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