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Don't Fight How to Conquer Difficult People

Straightforward and firm voices often work well if you deliver constructive words. Sometimes when you are nice to a person that will think you are weak and continue pushing you. Therefore, you want to avoid showing friendliness in certain situations, yet you want to act mature as you deal with the person.

It depends on the situation but under nearly any condition, you can come out of the problem a winner. One of the most devastating situation I encountered as a teenager came from a local roller rink. I was hanging out with a friend and two girls started a fight with me. As I came out the door, I was facing the entire roller rink of kids. I had made contact with my brother who brought a friend and the two of them brought a baseball bat and a machete. They started strutting backwards as they watch the group of people gather around me. Well, I knew if I run it would prove to be a very bad deal so, what I did was use very logical words with nothing but facts backing me in a very firm manner. What do you think happened? At the end, I had four people on my side and only one member of the group wanting to fight me. She asked me to meet her somewhere across town and I simply said, no if you want to battle it will happen here.

She didn't want to loose her free will to visit the roller rink; therefore, I walked away from what could have been a disaster by acting maturely. I keep it firm without showing aggression.

I told you this story so that you can see that no matter what the situation is there is a way out as long as you use common sense. If I had been a jerk as they were, it would have been on and I would have been hurt.

As you can see if you approach the situation in a cool, firm manner, you can get people off your nerves. Conquering difficult people is never easy; however, the best possible solution is dealing with the situation instead of letting it go.

Let's look at a case scenario to see how you will handle the problem. Per se, you go to work every day and your boss flirts with you pressuring you to give into his desires. As a woman, you feel threatened and confused. First, you need to prepare yourself to deal with the situation. It is against the law to harass someone sexually on the job, so you could turn him in. however, this could lead to embarrassment, since you are the only one seeing him, therefore it would be difficult to prove beyond doubt that he is harassing you.

Therefore, we are going to approach the man and deal with the problem, even if it means you will have to find another job. Walk up to the man and tell him, you have respected him by working hard everyday and doing as he asked, yet you have failed to respect me. I have no intentions of going anywhere with you, and I am asking you now to stop harassing me every day I come to work. There are consequences for this type of behavior and I will enforce my beliefs, i.e. I want you to stop now.

Sounds easy enough, yet it depends on how persistent this guy is as to whether he will abide by your demand for him to stop. If he continues, confront him again and the third time reports him. Take notes everyday so that you have recorded every word he says to you. Written statements are often more effective with the law than verbal statements.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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