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How to Conquer Difficult - Getting FAT

I know what you are thinking. You are wondering how getting FAT can help you conquer difficult people. Therefore, I am going to talk to you about getting FAT while using CPR to conquer your problem by bringing it back to life.

FAT is not overeating and failing to exercise in this case, rather FAT is the definition of the three elements you will use to conquer a difficult person. FAT includes feeling, actions, and thinking. CPR is not mouth-to-mouth revivals; rather it is another of the three elements you will need to conquer a difficult person. CPR includes clarifying the problem, paraphrasing, and reflecting on the situation as a whole. By the time I am finished you will likely loose weight and need someone to breathe some more air into your lungs.

Feelings are important to understand, since feelings come from the emotions and heart and invoke thoughts. To listen for feelings as a person speaks you will need to tune in those ears, while listening for discrepancies in the person's behaviors as he speaks. While listening to the behaviors tune into your own thoughts and summarize the details you have learnt. As you listen remain objective and silent, rather than interrupting, yet as you feel confused paraphrase the understanding of what you received from the communication. In other words, if I said, you make very bad decisions and I You would shoot back with a calm, cool, collected paraphrase such as, so, what you are telling me is

Now you can reflect the similar patterns in thoughts and behaviors, while moving on toe verify accuracy of the understanding. Now you can present your case to the person, as you have finished thoroughly listening to what he had to say.

It is wise to ask questions if you do not fully understand, as well as asking why you feel that I am a bad decision-maker.

As you can see FAT and CPR incorporates into the strategy, therefore all the elements combined can help you conquer a difficult situation. You can now move onto communicating your words assertively without showing aggressive behaviors. As you use the method of approach, use the words "I feel" rather than I think and the word "I" rather than you. This will drop down the level of drama that may occur.

As you confront the problem actively pay attention to the messages sent by the person. As you relate to the words, try to empathize by putting you in the difficult person's situation. Again, you want to paraphrase since it will reduce drama. As you move closer to the problem, make suggestions instead of barking commands, orders, and the like. Suggestions is a powerful tool if applied right and will work more effectively than sending out orders, commands and so forth.

As you talk, you will also need to come in contact with your own feelings. If I said you are a bad decision-maker, it will likely hurt your feelings and make you feel inferior. Turn these feelings into positive energy and express them wisely. We can role-play to help you see how a bad situation could turn into a positive moment.

Me: you make very bad decisions and I think you accomplish very little because of the faulty trait of yours.
Paraphrasing: So, what you are saying is my decisions...
I clarify: You heard me
You: I feel very sad that you think my decisions are always bad, and that I accomplish very little as a result of this fault. I prefer that you see my decisions as a difference of opinion and the results as a different type of resolve.

If you would have shot back with, I don't really care what you think moron, the argument was on. See how positive words can make you FAT and bring you back to life with CPR.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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