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How to Conquer Difficult People - Checking Reality

Sometimes at what time we deal with problems we have to check our own reality. However, if you want to check your own reality you must be have a description of the problem. Once you have, the description down you can move onto the steps in resolving the problem, including accepting, making good choices, and taking necessary steps to resolve the problem.

Description:
You are dealing with a person that tests you by pushing his/her influences and beliefs on you. While you told the person that you disagree with their choices, the person will not give up. The person is making you feel anxious, resentful, regretting, and overwhelmed.

Formulating ACT (Accept, Choice, Taking Necessary Steps to) Strategies to Resolve
Since we have the problem down, we need to learn the steps to resolve the problem. Accepting there is a problem is the first step in resolving the problem. You can learn to accept by describing the problem and recognizing its existence. Next, you can make choices as to how you will handle the problem by visualizing ideas and viewing the consequences of each solution that comes your way. The final ACT step is taking the necessary steps to resolve the problem.

Sounds easy and really it is especially once you have a description of the problem and have learnt to accept that a problem is part of your reality. Still, you want to check your own reality as you move along. Are you over dramatizing the situation? Are you assuming? Are your assumptions valid? What is your part in the problem? How can you get away from the problem while conquering the difficult person?

Once you following the ACT steps you will need to plan to confront the difficult person by using your visions of what you made a decision would work in the best interest of both parties.

To help you conclude on each step and detail of the problem consider making up a list. What is the problem? How is this problem hindering your life? Why do you feel anxious, resentful, regretting, and so on at what time this person confronts you? Is something the person saying true?

Let's probe more into the problem. What influences and beliefs is the person pushing on you? What are the consequences of these beliefs and influences if you decide to give into his pressures?

Description
The person is pressuring you to smoke marijuana with him.

Considerations - Deliberations
Anxiousness and resentful may be part of your response because this person is asking you to join in something illegal. Thus, crime is in the picture therefore you are nervous because of the surrounding situation. Your anxiousness is real. Resenting him is logical because this person may have been someone you could have trusted and now he is violating your right to remain drug free. Regret is real, since now you are regretting your affiliation with this person.

Conclusion:
How can you pull regret, anxiety and resentfulness together to make it a positive force to conquer the difficult person? Reality: Anyone committing a crime is going against the law.

Solution:
Could you inform the police and ask for help to deal with the difficult person since he is committing a crime? If you've already told the person you do not want to smoke marijuana and he keeps pushing, then reporting the crime is one of your options. Do not feel like a snitch, since we all have choices and when people make choices that affect our lives, thus they will reap consequences and it was their choice that put them where they are now. Therefore, if he goes to jail, he made that decision and not you. Now you can continue weighing out each idea that comes along while checking your reality and taking the actions to put an end to this difficult situation.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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