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How to Conquer Difficult People - Identifying the Problems

No matter what problem you deal with in life you will need to make connection with the problem first before you can take the next steps to resolving the problems. Therefore, check out the list of to dos so that you can get a grip on handling nearly any damn problem that comes your way.

The first step
Identifying the problems make sense. What type of person are you dealing with? Is the things this person is saying to you or doing to you make sense? IS the person respecting you and your rights?

Let's see an example of a mother and her son. The child expects the mother every time she leaves to tell him where she is going, what time she will return home, and so on. Yet every time he leaves the home, he disregards her parental rights and ignores her feelings by not telling her where he is going. Overtime the mother grows sick and tired of the child and starts to feel hatred inside her heart toward her own child, since this is not the only disrespect he dishes out to her. What can she do? Well, first a boy has a difficulty listen to a woman telling him what to do, which has been incorporated into him from dominate men. Therefore, her best bet is to enforce the laws and rules, as well as ignoring him at what time he wants to argue. The more times she ignores him, the less he will argue. Silence is a hearty gift of nature in some instances.

The second step
Sometimes negotiations will work in various difficult problems. Yet to make the negotiations work a person has to use the critical thinking cap to drive the nail into the surface. To combine critical thinking and negotiation you will need to move onto the third step, fourth step, sixth step, seventh step, and so on. The forth step of course is brainstorming the situation and weighing through the options as you brainstorm, which will take you to the fourth step and so on.

The third step
The third step should be obvious, after brainstorming your options you can choose from the list as to what the best options are to for dealing with the problems. For instance, a man and his wife argue. The woman is angry with her husband for showing up late for dinner. What are the options here? How can we avoid the problem? Let's review:

Husband walks in the door late for supper
Wife, "where the heck have you been? I told you that supper would be ready by six o' clock sharp."
Husband, "I had a layover and couldn't get away."
"Well, you could have called, I am sick of doing everything for you, and you do not appreciate what I do. This keeps up and you can start cooking your own meals."
Husband, "I never asked you to do anything for me."

Likely, the problem will continue because both the husband and wife made big mistakes that will lead to an argument. The solution to this problem is throwing some sugar on the fire. Let's review again and see what we come up with:

Husband arrives home from work late again.
Wife is upset at her husband since she always has supper on time, yet he seems to come home late often.
Wife responds, "Hi honey how was your day? I had dinner prepared for you hoping you would come home early tonight; however, I can warm it up for you if you like.
Husband, well, I had extra work that I hadn't expected and had to work late again. I apologize and will try harder to get my work done so that I can arrive home for supper on time.
Wife: It's ok honey, I realize you have a big responsibility, and of course I am upset but I am trying to understand."
Husband, "I appreciate that honey, I really do and will promise to try harder."

See how this works. Now see if you can figure out what to do on the forth, fifth, sixth, seventh and eighth step to resolve your problems with the person bugging you.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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