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How to Conquer Difficult People - Imagery Tactics

Imagery tactics is helpful in resolving problems, since it helps you to come up with renovated ideas. The tactic motivates the mind to study behaviors, solutions, intentions, and more. Using imagery tactics can help you to see the problem more clearly; since it can take you back to the moment, the incident occurred. If you want to solve problems, imagery strategies are the way to go.

Let's get started: You are standing in an office and surrounding you are desks, computers, telephones, people and so on. You slowly walk out of the office into a beautiful picture where you are now standing in nature peering up at a beautiful snow-capped mountaintop somewhere in Colorado. As you start to relax, you spot the person that gave you a problem. With the view in mind, your adrenaline is flowing, and you are rearing up to regain your beautiful relaxing moment back.

The person moves closer. You see him and start to feel tense, yet you had your plan in motion so you take a few deep breathes and remember what you were going to do on the day of confrontation. He moves closer. You take another deep breathe and prepare to use your assertive rights to address the issue.

He is standing in front of you. You now brush off your negative thoughts and pull out your suit of armor. As he opens his mouth, the first thing he says is something you didn't want to hear. He tells you that he had been thinking about the last week and realized that you are interrupting his life. Assuming this man is your mate, we can move onto a graphic scene.

Situation
You get on my nerves Jane. I have tried very hard in this relationship, yet you continue to take, take, and take.

Question: is this true? You ponder for a moment and think of all the times you gave to this man, and all the effort you put into the relationship to make it work.

YOU: I feel sad that you think I give nothing in this relationship. I feel that I work hard to make you happy. I don't know what else I can do to make you feel loved and respected.

Him: You don't know what to do. You never know what to do.
YOU: I am sorry you feel this way.
Him: You are not sorry. You like making me feel this way.
YOU paraphrasing: So, what you are saying is that you do not feel my feelings for you are legit?
Him: Exactly,
YOU: Again, I am sorry you feel this way. I've worked hard to let you know that I care about you. I can't understand why you don't see my efforts.
Him: I see clearly all right.
YOU: Maybe this is true, maybe you are rightwhat can we do to resolve this issue together?

As you can see, regardless that he is lying about seeing her efforts, Jane is not giving him room to destroy her. Instead, she is paraphrasing, accepting blame when she doesn't have to, and taking her part of responsibility in the situation.

If Jane doesn't give into his cries, and continues to use her strategies eventually he will give in to her reason.

Now if he has an ability to think the mate will take action upon Jane's request to join in harmony to resolve their issues by sharing. If he is not thinking, nothing Jane says possibly will make him listen to reason. In this event, recourse has to take place.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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