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How to Conquer Difficult People - Role - Playing

Role-playing and self-talk are the two top dog strategies in dealing with problems of all sorts. You can go visit a counselor for years and never get the point, yet if you role-play and use self-talk you most every time will get where you want to go.

Before you get started, examine the problem you are facing carefully. Analyze the problem until you come up with the best-explained answer. For instance, is the person arguing with you, and if so why is he arguing with you? Is the person pushing you into doing something you don't want to do? How do you feel about this? Is there areas in your mind were you really want to cave in that you should address? What is the person asking you to do? Why is the person asking you to do it? What is this person's problem?

Asking questions will open the door to answers you may have overlooked as the problem was delivered. Once you start to see, a few answers start your role-playing session. Sit in a comfortable area of the room, clear your mind and take your self into the moment. Look into the problem from a third eye, i.e. picture someone else going through the problem. Now you can start the imagining process, whereas you can visualize you confronting the difficult person and visualize what you will say to the person.

Move into the self-talk strategy once you get all information from role-playing. Use the self-talk strategy to seek out answers to the problem. After you have accumulated a list of ideas, break the ideas down, role-play again, and visualize what the consequences of each idea will deliver. You can move on to find new ideas, until you come up with the best solution.

As you get to a closure point, you can move on by learning paraphrasing, respect, expressing self, and so forth to help you conquer the difficult person. Go to the library and dig up some information were a similar problem occurred and see how the person handled it. If the example seems clear-cut and usable, take it to the limits by incorporating your own findings into the equation.

If you do not understand role-playing and self-talk, let's review. Picture a person pushing you into hanging out on a school night at a club. The person disrespected you since he/she does not want to listen to reason. You told the person you go to school the following day and if you hung out late hours, it would be difficult for you to pay attention and study. The person doesn't seem to care.

Picture you in the scene, yet viewing self as someone else dealing with the issues. What do you see? How is this person responding to the person? Now visualize you standing in front of the difficult person's face and telling them how you feel. You say to the person, well, I feel that you are disregarding my rights to say no. I've told you that I do not want to go out on this night, and yet I hear you continuing to push me.

My schoolwork is important for my future. I need to consider the most importance first, rather than consider my needs. Sure, I would love to go hang out with you and friends, yet it is the wrong night to enjoy this type of event.

You have removed criticism, judging, defense, and other obstacles out of the way by using this strategy. The person has no other recourse now but to respect your wishes. Yet, some people will still push. This is when you need to use assertiveness and maturity to get the point driven home.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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