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Positive - How to Conquer Difficult People

While dealing with difficult people the only logical and clear-cut outcome will arrive if you keep it positive on your end. Keeping it positive has always proven to be a solution for nearly any problem. For instance, when a person is pulled over by the police after committing a violation and if this person talks respectfully to the officer and his acts are positive many times the law will give a person a warning. On the other hand, if the person is belligerent when pulled over, most likely the officer will arrest the person or hand them tickets.

If you can see the logic in this scenario, you will realize if you remain calm, cool and collected while using your words wisely you can nearly get out of any situation or problem.

Hand gestures and a firm voice are also useful, depending on the situation. For instance, I work long hours as a writer and as I write interruptions are not welcome. Last week my brother's friend had difficulty understanding my rules and at what time he approached talking coy, which held no significance, I quickly threw up my right hand, angling the hand to the side with the fingers together and pointed out, and at the same time, I firmly said, no. One of the best logics in life is let your no's mean no, and your yes mean yes. Stay firm and hold onto your beliefs while using convictions as you express yourself. After showing this body language and using a firm tone by the way, he immediately got off my nerves. This doesn't always happen however, since some people have less respect for others.

One of the biggest mistakes parents and teachers alike make is commanding or ordering the children. Most times, they are only promoting hostility or behavior problems in the future. One thing to avoid while conquering difficult people is stop commanding and put your words in a respectful way. In other words, you wouldn't want to say, you had better stop pushy me now otherwise you won't like the results. You are certainly putting up defense against defense, which most times turn into a battle.

If you are dealing with a pushy person always, address the situation while thinking carefully. Some of the best results come from thinking critically, while some of the worst consequences come from those not critically thinking at all. Use your common sense and critical mind to put the pusher out of your way.

While dealing with arguments, unruly situations or pushy people you want to avoid giving warnings, since this is similar to commands. Likewise, you want to avoid threatening the person since you may start a fight. Furthermore, you want to avoid moralizing the person, since it will get you nowhere. This will make the person go on the defense line, or else feel guilty. You also want to avoid preaching since this will get on anyone's nerves and it is often a defense provoker and sometime a fight starter.

In the situation, you will need to avoid judging the person or making statements that demonstrate judgment, as well as avoid disagreements, criticizing and blaming the person. By no means should you use direct (you) while trying to resolve a situation.

Name-calling is another action you want to avoid, as well as stereotyping or ridiculing the person. This will offend the person and may lead to much more difficult situations. One of the best thing ladies can do while walking and dealing with pushy men trying to get them to date the person, is simply say no and walk briskly away. If you walk briskly with your back straight, it will let the person know you are confident and want nothing to do with him.

By Readabout's Handling Difficult People Team

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